幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)（2）

 幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

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幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

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1. Reasons for the lack of self-confidence in children

(1) family education thought and education behavior are a major factor in children's lack of self-confidence

1. Too many caring and over-protective families

When young children to explore with a desire for knowledge around the world, adult children like to do our best to take care of and arranged instead of protection, in fact, a kind of restriction, deprived children's training and development opportunities, killing the infant's ability to prove myself and develop towards independent living desire, on the one hand, a distrust caused by children, in the long term, in their children's mind and in the shadow the inferiority and doubt their own ability, on the other hand, the children lack of self-care ability of life not only, and the lack of independent activities and the ability to solve the problem, everything is to rely on others, once encountered difficulties was at a loss, and thus more likely to suffer setbacks, failures, so a vicious circle, formation of inferiority mentality.

It is because of these parents always spoil, pamper and excessive intervention in the protection of children, arranged to replace and add to the children's dependent psychology, worries of clothing to hand, turned lazy, they will retreat, constrained the formation of children's self-confidence.

幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

2. Too much expectation, too much denial

The famous psychologist A? Adler is pointed out that the high expectations of adults is also the important cause of infant self-abased psychology, some parents do not consider the child's interest, desire and actual ability level, blindly for young children to grow in their own design orbit, high expectations and requirements for young children, they always lay particular stress on intellectual education, one thousand party hundreds severs strictly to instill knowledge, teach literacy, arithmetic, practice the piano, overtime, holidays is not relaxed, plus the method is sim, rough, often blame kids stupid, resentment child lazy, and young children due to the limitation of the knowledge economy and various aspects ability, often difficult to meet the high requirements, this will make children have continued failure of frustration, "I can't" negative emotional experience accumulation, and often by self-doubt and then towards the inferiority. "Some parents always hope their children always stronger than others, wont transverse comparison, shortcomings and the advantages of the other children and their children, compared to negative, negative evaluation, this will make the child produces' themselves than others' feeling, doubt my ability, think you stupid brain, ability is poor, thus seriously affect the formation of the establishment of a positive self-image and confidence." 5.

幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

3. Excessive indoctrination, young children lack the opportunity to explore

In terms of education children, parents and teachers often underestimate young children's learning ability, implanted in children too much, as a way of education has great limitations, on the one hand, the effectiveness of the performance in transmission of knowledge is poor, instill young children not only lack of hands-on practice of society and the lack of peo think, guess, and young children's thinking an intuitive action and specific iconicity. Does not pass through from thinking, operation and practice, it is impossible to own understanding, on the other hand, the young children unable to exercise and develop my ability, don't feel their abilities, experience the joy of success, is not conducive to the formation of self-confidence.

幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

4. Parents' words

For children, parents in their minds occupies an extremely important status, parents' words, often an enormous impact on the child's psychological, parents often encourage children, full of confidence to them, children will be full of confidence to oneself, in the face of difficulties don't flinch, on the other hand, will let the child be disappointed, frustrated, lack of confidence to oneself, they will wince, even escape, which have ventilation difficult challenges. Now parents pay little attention to these, however, they are too care about the child's intellectual performance and academic achievements, some children don't live up to the expectations of parents, the parents of the hair can't hold their mouths, regardless of the child's self-esteem, no matter whether there is a stranger in, mouth is PiTouGaiNao big scold, or even the appearance of children being scolded, "eyes so small, just like your father!" "How can you be so stupid, a pig's head?" "If only my hair were as clever as your baby!" "And so on, not only did it fail to achieve the desired effect, but it also dampened the child's self-esteem. In the long run, it is not conducive to the growth of young children.

幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

  1。孩子缺乏自信的原因

(1)家庭教育思想和教育行為是孩子缺乏自信的主要因素

1。太多的關心和過分保護的家庭

當幼兒探索與世界各地的對知識的渴望,成年子女喜歡做我們 好的照顧和安排,而不是保護,事實上,一種限制,剝奪了孩子們的培訓和發(fā)展機會,殺死嬰兒的證明自己的能力和發(fā)展走向獨立生活的欲望,一方面,不信任造成的孩子,從長遠來看,在孩子們的頭腦和自卑的陰影,懷疑自己的能力,另一方面,孩子們不僅缺乏生活自理能力,而缺乏獨立活動和解決問題的能力,一切都是依賴他人,一旦遇到困難是虧本,因此更容易遭受挫折,失敗,所以一個惡性循環(huán),形成自卑心理。

這是因為這些父母總是溺愛、縱容和過度干涉孩子的保護，安排好去代替和增加孩子們的依賴性心理，對衣服的擔憂，變得懶惰，他們會退縮，限制孩子們的自信心的形成。

2。太多的期望，太多的否定

著名的心理學家?Adler指出成人的高期望也嬰兒自卑心理的重要原因,一些家長不考慮孩子的興趣,愿望和實際能力水平,盲目地讓孩子生長在自己的設計軌道,年幼的孩子很高的期望和需求,他們總是偏重智育,一千方百計塞維嚴格灌輸知識,教識字、算術,練習鋼琴,加班、假期不放松,加上方法簡單,粗糙,常怪孩子笨,怨恨孩子懶惰,和幼兒由于知識經濟和各方面能力的限制,往往難以滿足高要求,這將使孩子們繼續(xù)失敗的沮喪,“我不能”的負面情感體驗積累,然后經常被自我懷疑和自卑。“一些父母總是希望他們的孩子總是比別人,不會橫向比較,缺點和其他的孩子和他們的孩子的優(yōu)點,相對于消極的,負面的評價,這將會使孩子產生自己比他人的感覺,懷疑我的能力,認為你愚蠢的大腦,能力差,因此嚴重影響建立一個積極的自我形象的形成和信心。“5。

幼兒英語早教----自信心的培養(yǎng)

3。過度的教化，兒童缺乏探索的機會

在教育孩子方面,家長和老師經常低估了孩子的學習能力,植入太多,孩子的教育有很大的局限性,一方面,在傳授知識的有效性表現差,灌輸孩子不僅缺乏動手實踐的社會和人們認為的缺乏,想,和幼兒的思維直觀的行動和具體形象性。不通過思考，操作和實踐，不可能有自己的理解，另一方面，孩子不能鍛煉和發(fā)展我的能力，不覺得他們的能力，體驗成功的喜悅，不利于形成自信。

4。父母的言語

為了孩子,父母在他們心目中占有極其重要的地位,父母的話說,常常對孩子的心理產生巨大的影響,父母經常鼓勵孩子們,對他們充滿信心,孩子會對自己充滿信心,面對困難不退縮,另一方面,會讓孩子感到失望,沮喪,對自己缺乏信心,他們會退縮,甚至逃避,通風困難的挑戰(zhàn)�，F在父母很少注意到這些,但是,他們太關心孩子的智力表現和學術成就,有些孩子不辜負父母的期望,父母的頭發(fā),管不住自己的嘴,不管孩子的自尊,無論是否有陌生人,嘴是PiTouGaiNao大罵,甚至孩子罵的樣子,眼睛很小,就像你的父親!“你怎么這么笨，豬的頭?”“要是我的頭發(fā)像你的孩子一樣聰明就好了!”“等等，不僅沒有達到預期的效果，而且還挫傷了孩子的自尊。”從長遠來看，這不利于孩子的成長。

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